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29th August 2014

Question reblogged from Soraya Chemaly with 309 notes

drzaiustheape said: In your picture talking about how in the 100 thousands more women are abused or some shit along the lines of that. I think you need to compare those 'statistics' to countries like Saudi Arabia and China where women are really disadvantaged. Fuck you

sorayachemaly:

Newsflash: Women Are Not In A Competition For Human Rights

Here’s an idea: If you hear about a horrific injustice perpetrated against girls and women, try not to use that story as a weapon to silence other women who are fighting their own battles against violence and discrimination. 

When a South Korean ferry capsizes and hundreds die do you see media pundits tweeting that the victims of boat crashes in the U.S. should stop talking and take a hard look at what a really terrible disaster looks like? When prisoners in Egypt die, do they say to those raped or shackled while giving birth in U.S. jails, “See, those prisoners over there have it really bad”? When members of the LGTBQ community in Russia are brutally assaulted, do you hear people say to those here, “Now those people, they have something to complain about”?

But, women? Well, like you, everyone’s an expert on exactly what level of misogyny and violence is acceptable. You sound like Tom Bevan who recently tweeted: “Real war on women: Pregnant Pakistani woman stoned to death by own family for marrying the man she loved.” Within hours of Bevan’s tweet, journalist David Frum shared the sad and enraging news about two Dalit girls, gang-raped, who hanged themselves from a tree: “The next time somebody talks about ‘misogyny in American society,’ forward them this.”

What are you, six?

This is a “stock” formulation, a knee-jerk response for many people, especially conservatives.  There are people suffering far more violence and social ills elsewhere, always, and we should think about that. But, it’s immediately insulting because it implies that those protesting violence and talking about sexism in the United States (and the rest of the developed world) are too stupid to understand that there is a spectrum of violence.

Here are some FACTS about rape ‘here.”

Here are some FACTS about domestic violence “here.”

Your statement ignores the glaring fact that the spectrum we live with, globally, is one where women aresubject to gender-based violence. There is nowhere that this is not true. Everywhere, we face the political, legislative, and legal regulation of our bodies and reproduction in ways men don’t and we live, daily, with the real and abiding costs of avoiding or living with violence perpetrated almost exclusively by men. Many men apparently still doubt this, even after millions of women tell them that it’s true.

This commentary was more visible because in the days since Elliot Rodger’s killing spree the trending of #YesAllWomen catalyzed unprecedented media conversations about gender and misogyny. Quick as a flash the Misogynistic Theory of Women’s Relative Rights made its rote appearance: Women “here” are so much “better off” than women “over there.” Pick your “here,” “better,” and “over there.”

Women are not in a competition for female human rights.

The implication is that we, “here,” are supposed to be comforted that two girls were raped and hanged themselves in India. Do more men in India, per capita, throw acid on women than men in the United States douse them in gas and light them on fire? Every woman on a South African women’s soccer team has been raped, isn’t it better that on our national team chances are only two or three? I don’t understand why anyone thinks this is a “reasonable” and “balanced” thing to suggest. What is the point of this equation other than to put on display the sexist notion that women’s safety and rights are relative and contingent on other women’s lack of safety and rights? What is it about the notion of non-negotiable rights, human rights, for women, that is so hard to understand?

In case it’s not clear, this is what that way of phrasing says to the people who work to end this violence:

  • Women’s rights are a zero sum game played by women only, apparently outside of the scope of human rights.
  • Your concerns, “here,” are trivial.
  • We treat “our” women better than “they” treat “their” women. You are “lucky.” We could be doing this to you here.
  • There is a just-right goldilocks temperature for global gender-based violence and the cultural subordination of women. Really. I’ll decide what it is.
  • I am hugely privileged and have no real idea what I am talking about, but feel I have the authority to speak.
  • Stop talking. Stop talking. Stop talking. (Actually, “Stop whining” is more the suggestion of the “I’ll show them what’s really bad.”)

Comparing women’s security and freedom in this way does nothing useful or helpful at all. Instead, it demonstrates an inability to consider privilege and power when it comes to matters involving women.

Have a nice day.

Tagged: feminismyesallwomenhuman rights

29th August 2014

Photo reblogged from but - not ALL feminists! with 19 notes

notallfeminists:

I love her “god hates facts” profile picture. On a pro-feminist group on Facebook.

notallfeminists:

I love her “god hates facts” profile picture. On a pro-feminist group on Facebook.

Tagged: feminism

29th August 2014

Photo reblogged from Always Running for Trains with 4 notes

alwaysrunningfortrains:

Well said, Jim C. Hines

alwaysrunningfortrains:

Well said, Jim C. Hines

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21st August 2014

Post reblogged from sing the jingle with 158,881 notes

mdthwomp:

Unfriendly reminder that in America it’s reasonable to say an unarmed black kid deserved to be shot six times because he might have robbed a convenience store, but a white kid shouldn’t be kicked off the high school football team just because he violently raped a girl.

Tagged: this hearts my hearttruth

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21st August 2014

Quote reblogged from Welcome to the Dark Side with 113,802 notes

I spent like 10 years of my life pretending to fly around on a broomstick and you’re asking me if preparing for a love scene was ‘tricky’ because the other person also had a penis?
Daniel Radcliffe (via agiilebeast)

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20th August 2014

Photoset reblogged from Bookoisseur with 109,817 notes

lierdumoa:

iwatchforsasha:

Fantastic Breasts and Where to Find Them

That second to last panel is chilling.

Tagged: wowerotica

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20th August 2014

Photoset reblogged from Bookoisseur with 1,288 notes

Tagged: star trekproof that Scotty is a bad ass

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13th August 2014

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"It only takes a moment to lose the war with depression. Be vigilant. Be brave. You do not fight alone." - Jenny Lawson

If you ever need it:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255.

Tagged: suicidedepressionJenny LawsonThe Bloggess

13th August 2014

Quote reblogged from my sweet etc. with 126,437 notes

If someone were to die at the age of 63 after a lifelong battle with MS or Sickle Cell, we’d all say they were a “fighter” or an “inspiration.” But when someone dies after a lifelong battle with severe mental illness and drug addiction, we say it was a tragedy and tell everyone “don’t be like him, please seek help.” That’s bullshit. Robin Williams sought help his entire life. He saw a psychiatrist. He quit drinking. He went to rehab. He did this for decades. That’s HOW he made it to 63. For some people, 63 is a fucking miracle. I know several people who didn’t make it past 23 and I’d do anything to have 40 more years with them.

anonymous reader on The Dish

One of the more helpful and insightful things I’ve seen about depression/suicide in the last couple of days.

(via mysweetetc)

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12th August 2014

Post reblogged from Bookoisseur with 35,945 notes

rapunzelie:

catcalls and other street harassment are a form of violence and expressed hatred for women and don’t ever think of it as anything but that because a man on the street can go from “hey baby you look sexy tonight” to “bitch don’t fucking ignore me” in .002 seconds
it’s not about appreciating a woman’s beauty or boosting her ego with a little compliment, it’s intimidation and a source of empowerment for them

Tagged: feminism

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